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Am I Better Suited to Have Lived in the 40’s and 50’s?

5 Nov

Am I better suited to have lived in the 1940’s and 1950’s?

I was talking to a friend about this earlier today. Well, actually my future wife and soulmate, but she doesn’t know that yet. Ha!

Having not lived in the 40’s and 50’s personally I have to go off of what I see in Alfred Hitchcock movies. You know, ‘North by Northwest’, ‘To Catch A Thief’, ‘Rear Window’ and many more masterpieces! Or maybe I just have the hots for Grace Kelly when she was in her 20’s and single!! Probably a bit of all of the above! lol

In this time period all the men wore suits, or at least slacks. All the women were mostly in dresses and so elegantly dressed! People had manners, class, sophistication, and most of all kindness for each other!

What happened to society where it slowly decided to forget all of these wonderful parts of life! What happened to the elegance of our everyday clothes we wear? What happened to the kindness to each other? When did we go from being happy in life to making our lives only about the pursuit of money and things?

Don’t get me wrong, I like the feel of denim as my everyday pant garment, but in no way does a pair of jeans compare with the elegance, flow, style of a nice pair of slacks! Pair it with a nice jacket and cuffed/collared shirt and as in the 40’s/50/s where everyone looks like a million bucks!

I sometimes am described by my friends as “quiet”. Well, it is because I see so much in life that should not be. I’ve pondered the thought of moving to a very ancient city in Europe, or a uncontaminated South American country. I hear Cuba has cars from this time period. Perhaps their isolation from the bad influences of the culture of the USA for the last 30+ years has kept them in a time bubble? I traveled to Colombia a few years back and I can guarantee it IS in this time bubble. But the USA is my home, where my family is, and to leave all the many things I love here would be something I’d need to consider very carefully, indeed!

The life that I see in the Alfred Hitchcock movies, might be just that! A movie made to take people to a better place for a few hours in the theater. Perhaps, life is life no matter what decade or location?

I suppose the answer is to find a like minded person in life and create that ideal life for your own family!

Oh god, I’m a future cult leader!

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A Yearning Heart…..”Once Upon A Time…..”

12 Jun

Once upon a time, in a land far far away lived a princess.

A princess like none other, for her heart was full of love and kindness equal only to her amazing beauty.

She was smart beyond her years, wise, with an outlook on life that warms your heart, and puts a smile on your face.

On the other side of the universe lived a prince.

Handsome and strong with broad shoulders his presence was welcomed with respect and high regard everywhere he went.

His mind was sharp, quick, and he could see the world in a refreshing positive light.

The prince and the princess connected mentally as their minds and hearts were a perfect match, completing the other. Powerful as individuals, super powerful together.

Their attraction to each other was different from any other relationship, for the prince and princess connected on a soul level. Souls wrapped around the others, hearts that beat as one. Minds that bond like no others.

Their love was a pure love, like 2 kids playing on a warm summers day, happy, fun, not a care in the world. For when the prince and princess were together, time stood still, happiness, and laughter, and a content, warming love was within them.

This was a union on the deepest level which was unbreakable. Forever, and No Matter What, they had found their soulmate in the other.

Once upon a time it happened! Dreams do come true! The fairy tale does exist! Once upon a time……

I Was Once A Great Warrior! Superhero and Problem Solver to All!

21 May

I was once a great warrior! The problem with taking a warrior out of the war is that he is lost.

For as long as I can remember I was great in intense situations. Always the one who stepped up to take on the crises, the danger, the bully, the out of body situation, with a clear head and decisive action! I was good! I was the soldier, the leader who could identify “in slow motion” what was needed and decisively direct others and act myself in a swift way to a positive calm outcome!

I was a warrior! Superhero!

And with the few of us in life who have that metal edge, when moments of being not needed to save the world, called into action, “downtime”!…….we lose our edge! We fall into depression and self destruction. We isolate ourselves, for our former warrior lifestyle was fed by directing others to solve the task at hand, the crisis.

Without the crisis we are very disappointed in humanity. People are weak. People suck.

‘Rambo First Blood’ was all about this. “Back there I used to be responsible for dozens of the best men, and million dollar machinery, back here I am nothing”!

‘Apocalypse Now’, when Martin Sheen was drunk in his dirty little bedroom, and his higher ups came to find him is another good example of a warrior in down time!

‘Patton’, when George C. Scott said, “I’d be proud to lead you guys in battle, anytime, anywhere”!

I don’t have any “larger than life” media type credentials in my past which would distinguish me to someone who does not know me as a warrior, and someone who has “the edge” in life. Other than those that knew me and relied on me to solve their life problems. I was an athlete in High School and College and always won the game with a winning home run or winning sack of the quarterback. I was the one who people pulled into the bathroom at parties for me to solve some issue. I was the one when fights were about to break out would step in and take on or diffuse the aggressor no matter his size or the situation. After college I entered the business world, and I was always the one to tackle the largest, most stressful crisis or most difficult customer. I did the dirty work that no one else wanted to do. In life, I have been the one given the task to tell others their family member died. I have been the one to tell girlfriends and boyfriends, husbands and wives, their significant other doesn’t want them anymore. I have called CEO’s out of the blue and crashed Presidential candidate meetings and had discussions with world leaders and policy advisers of Israel and other middle eastern countries leaders. I have dated super-models, Sports Illustrated Swimsuit edition models, Ambassadors daughters, Kings granddaughters, Senators daughters, Professional sports legends daughters, and have lived life like few others!

It has been some time since I was in the “war”, and able to be me! Not a military war, but the war of life. It is like I was captured by the enemy and the enemy has kept me in solitary confinement!

There is no conclusion to the blog post as the journey is not over which only comes in death. Maybe a “war” will rear it’s ugly head and I’ll be called back in action! I can only wish not! For, I believe in the good. The good in people and all humanity. But, I know differently. People are bad for the most part. I wish it were different. Those that have, want more. Those that have not, want more. It is a very ugly want, take, want, take world. I don’t want to be part of it. But I am!

“A man with no purpose, is a man waiting to die” ~ Earth Zebra

I was once a great warrior!

Is the “One” we choose to be with “Meant to Be”?

29 Nov

I wonder if “the one” we end up with in each of our individual seeking’s for love is a choice or “meant to be” and will happen no matter what.

I read about people who tell stories of “love at first site” and they just knew that the person in front of them was to be the one they would spend the rest of their life with. How did they know? Was it that they simply were attracted to this person and they have dozens of others…..”mis-fires”….caucuses…. on the highway of past attractions.

Is it just that the one we end up with turned out to be the one so it is easy to say, “I knew at first site”. How many other “at first site’s” did these people also have?

Today, I met a girl who could possibly be “the one”. Incredibly grace, elegance, and on the surface all the things a King would seek for his Queen. I even told her about this blog, so to a certain extent does that mean I’m writing this to her on some deep sub-conscious level? Does this mean that I think she is the one, or a candidate? Where does the official line get drawn and distinguished between our natural “hope for good things” and some sort of god guided “meant to be” scenario?

If you were to drive on the highway of the past for any of us, of all the possible “the one’s” you’d need a tank to drive over all the dust remains to make the highway passable on the road to today. I think this is true for all of us. What is the difference between all those “the ones” and any of today’s “the ones”?

I think that in our journey in life people are always optimistic towards the future. It is in our genes to expect a plentiful harvest, a positive outcome, and reaching our dreams and goals. I think this also rings true for finding love.

I’d like to think that “meant to be” does exist. I’d like to believe that every person has another person they are born to find and travel through life together with. But, why is it not this way for other mammals and animals created by god? Why is it that we should believe that the human experience is special to none other? How do you explain divorce when if asked, most of those getting divorced thought they had found “the one” in the beginning too?

Is it possible that our desire as a society and individuals to be “special” because we exist at the top of the food chain and are arguably the smartest animal in the universe figure into our need for those we choose to “give ourselves too” to be somehow chosen by a higher power? Is this especially heightened to Americans as the current dominant super power of all countries and feeling entitled to being special is of less an importance for other cultures and countries?

Well, as someone who still hopes someday to see Santa Claus climbing down the chimney, the Tooth Fairy leaving the money under my future children pillows when they lose a tooth, the Easter Bunny, Mother Nature, The Great Pumpkin, Unicorns, and Angel’s granting wishes every time a bell is heard, I will also continue to believe that there is just one person out there for each of us and if it is meant to be, then it will be.

And until I meet that person, the road bumps created by the ones that did not make the cut make the ride an interesting one!

“Good luck to you all, it is meant to be!” ~ Earth Zebra

“No Matter What!”

22 Nov

NO MATTER WHAT!

Other than myself, I have never found anyone to exhibit a “No Matter What” characteristic and way about life! Better known as “NMW” for those of us who are cool and know about LOL, OMG, BFF’s, and all the lingo of modern coolness. OMG did I JST, NW, WTF has come over me!

Best to define it first:
* To be true to another “No Matter What!”
What this means is not just the obvious of a romantic partner. It is for any relationship, a way of life, family, a code, a badge earned, best friends, a trusted way of interacting in life with everything we come in contact with. It is about anything other than ourselves. It is the most unselfish (insert anything) way of approaching something other than ourselves!

Trust me, I’ve looked and looked!! I’ve posted bat signals in the sky, personal ads in newspapers personal sections for “Man seeks Pina Colada’s, Getting Caught in the Rain and a NMW’s Character”. I’ve written graffiti on bus stop benches with my personal email address and even once wrote a letter to Santa Claus one year not so long ago, to no avail. “No Matter What”, only I possess it, I have concluded. Not even Santa could find another but me, for on Christmas morning I discovered my letter with return personal penmanship from Santa on the bottom, next to a half eaten cookie and half drank milk glass saying “look in the mirror pal, what do you expect of me, miracles?”! Geee, thanks Santa, appreciate the advice! I guess maybe I will have to write Mother Nature next for an answer!

I see in the movies, relationships with NMW (No Matter What!) characteristics of it’s stars, happening all the time on the screen and TV. Is this where my “expectations” have gone awry, for the movies are not real life and I’ve twisted what I expect of real life into something that doesn’t exist? But that can’t be true, as I am here! I am not a movie script. I have not been invented by fantasy of a screen writer!

Sometimes I think I am part of a leper colony when I do bring it up….a 3 legged centipede who resides at a rocking chair factory! Why is that? Well, it is because the society we live in accepts less worthy characteristics that 99.9999999999999999999991 % of the people in this world have and if you ask a lump of coal why all rocks are can’t be the Star of Africa, you can be sure it is going to say something to legitimize it’s own worthiness in this world. You can’t ask the fox, in this world, if the chickens are safe.

I will keep searching for another person in life who also has the “No Matter What” gene within them but I’m skeptical about the chances of finding them. It’s ok, the Star of Africa shines brightly enough to light up so much, and so do I!

“To find another who cares about you ‘No Matter What’ is a rare thing indeed” ~ Earth Zebra